How to Share Your Referral Links Without Being Spammy

We all have that one Facebook friend. The one who posts a new "opportunity" every day, tagging 50 people in a low-quality graphic.

Don't be that person.

You can be highly successful with referral bonuses without annoying your friends. In fact, if you do it right, your friends will thank you for sharing. Here is the guide to ethical, non-spammy sharing.

Rule #1: Context is King

Never drop a link without context.

• Bad: "Sign up here! [Link]"
• Good: "I've been using the Amex Gold for a year now and the 4x points on groceries has saved me about $300. If anyone is looking for a new food card, the current sign-up bonus is really high (90k points). Happy to share my link if you want it!"

Rule #2: Wait to be Asked (Or Offer Privately)

Social media broadcasts are fine occasionally, but direct messages are more effective—IF you have permission.

• Don't: DM 100 people "Hey use my link."
• Do: If a friend posts "Ugh, my bank fees are so high," reply with "I switched to SoFi last year and haven't paid a fee since. Plus they gave me $50 to sign up. Want me to send you the info?"

Rule #3: Provide Value, Not Just a Link

Write a mini-review. Explain why you like the product.

• "Just booked a free flight to Japan using points from my Venture X card. The lounge access alone makes the annual fee worth it. Highly recommend it for travelers."

This is helpful content, not just a sales pitch.

Rule #4: Use Dedicated Platforms

The best place to share links is where people are actively looking for them.

• Referbonuses.com: This is a marketplace specifically for this purpose. Users come here wanting to find a link. You aren't interrupting their day; you are solving their problem.
• Reddit Threads: Look for specific "Referral Threads" in subreddits like r/churning or r/amex. Only post in the designated threads. Posting outside of them will get you banned instantly.

Rule #5: Disclose the Benefit

Be transparent. "If you use my link, I get a small bonus, which helps pay for my coffee habit. Win-win!" People appreciate honesty and are often more likely to use your link to support you.

Summary

Sharing referral links is about sharing value. If you truly believe the product is good and the offer is strong, you are doing your network a favor. Just keep it authentic, helpful, and relevant.